Juggling family, career, friends, and just plain daily stress?

You need to create a personal sanctuary.

I had the best time hiking Torrey Pines State Reserve yesterday and in the midst of all that natural beauty and calming space a topic came up. My single mom friend and I began discussing the importance of making our homes our personal sanctuaries.

Making personal space a sanctuary when it comes to creating a relaxing, self-loving environment for me and my daughter is so important. But what about when it comes to dating? That to me is when creating a sanctuary becomes more important than ever.

My home is a place of safety for me and my daughter. When I bring in different people (whose energy and agendas may or may not be in line with mine), when we create expectations and forge bonds, we are setting ourselves and our kids up for disappointment if we allow bonds to form too quickly or do so without careful thought.

With this in mind, I never allow dates to pick me up at home, invite them over, or allow anyone in my home that I know is toxic to our sanctuary.

I take it even a step further…

…by not having my mail delivered to my home, ever. I choose to get my mail elsewhere. When I sit somewhere and open my mail it is away from home, so that if there is anything that may cause me stress, like bills, I am dealing with it in my car or in the Postal Annex and not bringing it into my personal sanctuary.

When I sit somewhere and open my mail it is away from home, so that if there is anything that may cause me stress, like bills, I am dealing with it in my car or in the Postal Annex and not bringing it into my personal sanctuary.

To take your personal space seriously means creating an environment where you can rejuvenate from the stresses of life outside of those doors and walls.  That means get and stay organized, set boundaries, and surround yourself with the things you love.

It is up to you to create a place you can feel resiliency take hold in, inhaling scents that make you feel relaxed, or lighting candles and sipping wine or tea as you relax.

It is up to you to create a place you can feel resiliency take hold in, inhaling scents that make you feel relaxed, or lighting candles and sipping wine or tea as you relax away the stress of life.  Even with kids at home, take the time to create a sanctuary with bubbles and light music when the house is quiet as your skin sinks into warm water.

Make the time.  

Back in the days before computers, people went to work and came home, leaving all things related to their job back at the office. Now is it front and center in our sanctuary all the time. TV, computers and video games all bring a different energy into

Now is it front and center in our sanctuary all the time. TV, computers and video games all bring a different energy into the space and I am as careful as I can be, as sensitive as possible, to that disrupting the entire way I want my sanctuary to feel.

Bottom line…

Creating a space that supports love, warmth, security, peace, joy and caring is a big part of living a resilient life.

Are you treating your home like a personal sanctuary?

Are you taking it seriously? If not, maybe it is time you change that.

Cheers to your success, and your relaxation!

Michelle Renee

Founding Partner

VERB Media Group